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Surviving Christmas In A Dysfunctional Family

Visions of the perfect story-book holiday is a particularly difficult idea for many people. Surviving Christmas in dysfunctional families requires us to pull out all the tools we have learned in therapy so that we are not triggered by mal-adaptive thinking and emotional patterns.


Let This Dose of Encouragement Strengthen You

You have probably survived a lot already and will survive another Christmas too.


Strengths, capabilities and wisdom are in you.


Feel them and know that they are in you. Access your strengths now.


In the words of the remarkable Louse Hayes:


“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.” Louise L. Hay

  • Create Your Own TraditionsSurviving Christmas in dysfunctional families requires an authentic expression of new traditions. We do not have to engage in traditional rituals that do not work for us. If traditional family dinners or family visits create arguing and fighting, you might consider not participating. Emotions run high during Christmas and maladaptive patterns run rampant. If Christmas creates the perfect storm for family members to act at their worst, give yourself permission to not participate. Join Sarah and Abby in this insightful podcast episode as they navigate the challenges of the holiday season amid dysfunctional family dynamics. Discover valuable tips on setting boundaries, lowering expectations, and prioritizing self-care to reclaim the holidays and create a more joyful experience.

  • Be Aware of Your Expectations – For years I tried to create an ideal Christmas despite a great deal of dysfunction in my family. Of course, after the “big event” was over, I felt exhausted, anxious, and sad. I had to accept that my expectations were irrational. An idyllic Christmas was not in my future. Once I accepted this reality, the holidays became much easier.

  • Set Boundaries – Surviving Christmas in dysfunctional families involves understanding your personal limits when you are exposed to mal-adaptive or abusive behaviors by family members. Perhaps that line in the sand is when too much alcohol is consumed, or passive aggressive actions are directed your way. Know what your limits are, and plan your escape strategy. Perhaps setting boundaries is limiting the time you spend with dysfunctional family members, or declining to participate in gift exchanges. Know your limits and protect your sanity.

  • Lean into Your Coping and Self-Care Strategies – If you come from a


  • dysfunctional family, hopefully you have developed coping skills and self-care strategies to get you through the holidays. Lean into them or develop new ones. Be creative and give yourself permission to do what you need to do. Practice self-compassion.

A heartwarming moment of sharing, symbolizing the success in establishing new traditions during the holiday season. #SurvivingChristmas #NewTraditions"
Share your successes in creating new traditions for a brighter, stress-free holiday season. #SurvivingChristmas #NewTraditions

If you have established a new traditions or coping strategies that has helped you survive Christmas in your dysfunctional family, please share your wisdom. It may help those of us who are still trying to master the art of Surviving Christmas in a dysfunctional family.


Be in peace - diane

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